Lord, help me to be a good stepmother… give me the patience of a saint, the strength of an ox, and the skin of a rhinoceros. Help me to understand why her mother would rather believe her child is suffering at the hands of an evil stepmother than being loved by a kind, responsible adult who brings her happiness. Let me be content in my knowledge that children have an unlimited supply of love to give. Keep me from reminding her mother that my presence in her life does not take away the love she feels for her as she fails to understand that a child’s love multiplies and does not divide. Help me in the constant struggle to find my role in the child’s life, somewhere “below” a parent but “above” an aunt or family friend.
Accordingly, help me to appropriately and accurately represent our relationship when in public. If someone calls her my child or me her mother, guide me in how I am to respond… let me know if I am overstepping my bounds by remaining silent or disowning them by correcting the assumption. Help me keep my patience, even while dropping my plans at a moment’s notice when her “real” parents are busy… and when her mother tells my husband “she is not her mother!” and “why can’t she watch her?” in the same conversation, give me the strength to keep from going over the brink of hysteria. Help me to know when and how I should discipline child without exceeding my authority or taking too passive a role. Lead me from the temptation of spoiling her in the vain hope that she will accept me and not resent my presence. If a time comes when I disagree with how she is being raised, make me keep silent and not object in spite of the fact that she lives in my home. Give me the ability to anticipate all potential problems.
Make sure I am always ready with some cash in my pocket for surprise expenses and the time to drive somebody somewhere at the drop of a hat. Remind me that if I have a moment to catch my breath, I have probably forgotten something, and when I finally remember what it is, do not let me assume one of the “real” parents is taking care of it. Help me to forget that in spite of devoting the time, money, stress and energy required in raising my stepchild, I will not shop for prom dresses, be the mother of the bride or dance with the groom. Remind me that maybe, some day, the child will give me a second thought and remember something positive about me from their childhood. Let her gain something from having known me, no matter how small or insignificant, and let something, anything I did make her a better person, whether she realizes it or not.
Kasen had been running around the house in a t-shirt and underwear all day. His daddy went outside to shovel this lovely UTAH snow. Oh boy, Kasen's favorite thing to do! He threw his boots, a vest and gloves on and was out the door quicker then I could say "get pants on" It was so darn cute Rob had to get a picture before sending him back in for more appropriate clothes for the weather! 
